Add wxSystemThemedControl and use it in wxMSW

wxSystemThemedControl allows to use the "system theme" (i.e. the theme used by
the system applications such as file manager and which can, surprisingly, be
different from the default one). Currently it is only implemented for wxMSW
and does nothing under the other platforms.

Use wxSystemThemedControl for wxDataViewCtrl, wxListCtrl and, optionally, if
wxTR_TWIST_BUTTONS style is specified, wxTreeCtrl to give them more native
appearance under MSW.

Closes #16414.

interface/wx/listctrl.h

@@ -258,6 +258,10 @@ enum
            Processes a @c wxEVT_LIST_CACHE_HINT event type.
     @endEventTable
 
+    @note Under wxMSW this control uses wxSystemThemedControl for an explorer
+    style appearance by default since wxWidgets 3.1.0. If this is not desired,
+    you can call wxSystemThemedControl::EnableSystemTheme with @c false
+    argument to disable this.
 
     @library{wxcore}
     @category{ctrl}